"Someone else's opinion of you is none of your business."
- Rachel Hollis
I remember the first time I heard the above quote. I was listening to "Girl Go Wash Your Face" on Audible. I actually had to replay what I had just heard because it didn't sound right. I mean WTH! How can it not matter what other's think of me. At first I just put it aside. It was ridiculous in my mind. Therefore, I wasn't going to spend too much time on it. I mean Rachel was spot on about everything with the exception of this. However, I couldn't shake it. I kept thinking about it. I wrestled with it for a bit. I began to realize that I was seeking approval from everyone. My self worth has always been tied up in what other people think. People who didn't even know me or knew some of me had become my guage on how I felt about myself. The realization pissed me off even more. Then came the Aha-moment where I realized that all the energy that was going into people liking me, left me little energy to do the hard work of cultivating myself. Now I am spending time trying to unravel who I am. Trying to figure out who I want to be. Learning to find my value in authenticity and cherish how much I like myself.